People often express a desire to be happy, and this goal is rarely questioned. It’s a socially acceptable pursuit, the idea of glowing up to chase something the world values. However, with increased awareness, it becomes clear that the happiness once sought may not have been genuine. The problem with the glow-up concept is that it only showcases the end results, creating the illusion that these results are what generate happiness. This mindset can lead to believing that the before version of oneself is not enough or acceptable, placing value solely on the version that aligns with society’s external standards. This can create a shallow relationship with oneself—akin to a fake friend who only appreciates superficial attributes like appearance, wealth, or success.
At F.A.C.E. Makeup Artistry, I don’t post “before” and “after” photos of clients. Comparison praise can devalue someone’s previous appearance and subtly imply that their natural state is less desirable.
Instead, it’s essential to focus on the personal journey and use tools like makeup to enhance one’s unique features and express individuality, rather than comparing before and afters. Makeup should be a means of celebrating who you are at every stage, not a measure of your worth based on societal standards. True contentment comes from embracing and loving every version of oneself, not just the one that meets external expectations. Ask yourself: Am I valuing my true self at every stage, or only when I meet certain external standards?